You're Probably Wrong About Them
Why your fastest assumption is usually your worst one.
Listen here.
Dr. John Imhoff founded the Industrial Engineering department at the University of Arkansas. I had the privilege of having him for more than one class. Many of us have fond memories of “Dr. I" as he had a deep passion for mentoring students. He was focused on adding value to us through his many years of experience. Dr. Imhoff repeated phrases that stuck in your head. One that I'll never forget was a paraphrase of Proverbs 4:7 from the Bible:
With all thy getting get understanding.
This has come to mind more than once as I've made the mistake of assuming others' intent without first seeking to understand where they are coming from.
We often tell ourselves stories about what a person’s motives are based on a single interaction, text, email, or social media post. This is especially true when you think about one generation judging another. What if, instead of making assumptions, we first sought to understand? What if generational differences became a strength rather than something to endure?
I recently read a book called “A New Kind of Diversity.” In it, Tim Elmore explains the forces that shaped each generation. He also gives the reader a better appreciation for the strengths and opportunities each has. At my former company, this discussion spawned a multi-generational book club in which Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z are all learning from each other. It’s powerful to see how understanding can change perspectives.
I encourage you to seek understanding with those you encounter this week. Ask open-ended questions. Listen to the answers. Repeat back what you heard. Course correct as needed. I’m thankful for Dr. Imhoff’s investment in my life, and I’m hopeful to follow his example in impacting others for as long as I have breath.
See you next Sunday.
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Listen to understand, not to defend is something I remind myself of all the time! This Gen Xer loves your reminder too!
This is a great reminder that gaining understanding creates an environment of mutual respect for generational uniqueness. This is also true with people in general. When we understand, we can see from a different, perhaps more accepting lens. Great thought for the upcoming week.