All By Myself

Why Your Dreams Need a Community

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You feel it, don't you?

That quiet whisper reminds you there's more to your story. It's the tension between who you are and who you know you could be.

It’s like you’re in a cage that you built. The familiarity of old patterns wraps around you like a well-worn, smelly old blanket.

Here's the truth: Those thoughts and comfortable routines aren't just habits - they're where you go to hide. They're the excuses you crafted over many years, the well-rehearsed stories about why,

"Now isn't the right time." Or worse yet,

"This is just how I am."

Let's get real - you've outgrown these stories. That’s why you’re reading Grow Yourself First. You are ready to write a new story that aligns with the potential you glimpse in your quietest, most honest moments.

When was the last time you did something intentionally outside of your comfort zone instead of playing it safe?

Think of the most profound transformations in your life. Chances are they involved someone who saw your potential before you recognized it yourself. Someone who refused to co-sign on your limitations, who challenged your self-imposed boundaries with compassion and some tough love. Who was it for you—a coach? A friend? A teacher? Or a parent?

I’ve been a member of a very special mastermind community for over a year. They help me overcome the lies I tell myself by holding up a mirror and helping me see how I truly show up in the world.

You need truth-tellers too — people who will show you how they see you and what you could be, not the limited person you’ve conditioned yourself to see.

Here are some ideas for how to break free from the intense gravitational pull of going it alone:

1. Assess Your Circle

• Who are the five people you spend the most time with? Do they energize you and pull you up? Or do they make you feel good about your lack of effort?²

• Notice whose presence makes you question your limitations and helps you believe you were made for more.

2. Create a Growth Ecosystem

• Join a community that scares you with its level of ambition — a fitness class, an online mastermind, or a group coaching program.

• Schedule conversations with someone who's walking the path you want to walk.

3. Establish New Patterns

• Share your goals with your new inner circle and ask for support

• Set up regular check-ins where you report on ACTIONS, not intentions

• Create consequences for falling back into old patterns (make them public!)

4. Commit to Discomfort

• Calendar three activities outside your comfort zone each month.³

• Document your growth journey to track patterns and progress in a simple journal.

• Celebrate small wins with your community, no matter how insignificant they seem.

Your future potential isn't waiting for more information, better timing, or perfect circumstances. It's waiting for you to surround yourself with people who won't let you play small.

Ready to stop defaulting to your old story in 2025?

Today is the day to start. Now is your time. The best is yet to come!

Thank you for reading, and let me know how I can serve you.

1. All By Myself

2. Who is in your top third?

3. For one friend who struggled with depression, this was connecting with 3 people each week that she didn’t know at the grocery store, Starbucks, etc.